Let’s face it, most of us women like to talk. The need to communicate and to feel heard is hard-wired into us by our Creator. I love few things more than catching up with a good friend, listening to her heart and spilling mine. He made us for relationships.
While it’s true we do an awful lot of talking, perhaps even more importantly, we do a great deal of listening. So do our daughters. But what are we hearing? Coming at us from every source imaginable, daily competing for our attention are voices from friends, teachers, co-workers, church leaders, parents, boys/men to television, music, movies, magazines, books, and the Internet. Whew! That’s a lot of noise!
Whose voice are you hearing above the rest? Have you bought into the lies from the world which have told you since you were a young girl that you don’t measure up? How have those lies affected the way you talk to yourself? You know… the things you say to yourself about yourself when you’re alone.
Things like, “I’m so stupid. I can’t ever do anything right. I’m too fat/thin. I hate myself. I’m ugly. I’ll never be able to do that. I wish I looked like her, had what she has, or could do what she can do. I’m such a failure. My life has no meaning. God could never use me.” The list can go on and on. I would guess you’ve had some of the same self-dialogue.
Maybe you say those things in your head or maybe you’re like me, and at times you’ve actually said them out loud in front of your daughter. Have you ever thought that your daughter will very likely grow up and form her own self-dialogue that will be very similar to what was modeled for her?
Are you instilling in her the desire to hear God’s voice concerning every topic she’s wrestling with, some of which she’ll continue to battle for many years? Are you teaching and modeling for her how to listen above the din for the voice of God, to hear the truth of who HE says she is from His Word?
Whose voice are you hearing above the rest? Who do all of these voices tell you that you are? Who do you say that you are? Want to know what God, in His holy Word, has to say about you? If you are His child through faith in Jesus Christ (Eph. 2:8), can you not hear His voice above the rest, speaking to your heart the truth of who you are in Him and because of Him? Listen to Him now…
You are the apple of My eye – Psalm 17:8
You have been bought with a price – 1 Cor. 6:20
You are My workmanship – Eph. 2:10
You are no longer a slave to sin, but are forgiven and free – Rom. 6:6, 1John 1:9
You are free from blemish – Col. 1:22
You are never forsaken – Hebrews 13:5
You are an overcomer – 1 John 5:4-5
You belong to Me – John 17:9
You are a conqueror – Rom. 8:37
You are a coheir with Jesus Christ – Rom. 8:17
You are chosen by Me – 1 Pet. 2:9
You are made by Me – Psalm 100:3
You are royalty – Rom. 8:16-17
You are called by name – Isaiah 43:1
You are My child – John 1:12
You have been rescued – Col. 1:13
You have been made new – 2 Cor. 5:17
You are inscribed on the palm of My hand – Isaiah 49:16
You are precious in My sight – Isaiah 43:4
You are LOVED! – Isaiah 43:4
Now, the next time we get into a conversation with ourselves, let’s remember what God, the Creator of the universe, our heavenly Father, Jesus our blessed Redeemer, says about us… and then let’s believe Him, taking every untrue thought captive to the obedience of Christ, clarifying these truths for our daughters by our example, training them to hear His voice, His truth above the noise!
*I realize these truths are just as important for our boys to know as well as our girls, but since typically, more girls struggle with issues of self-worth as related to the things that constantly bombard them through the media, I directed this post toward moms and daughters. But, of course, please, encourage your boys/men of their high value in and because of Christ, according to His never-changing Word!